“High Functioning means I am able to work extremely hard to hide who I really am so that my autism is mildly experienced by other people” – Lisa Morgan on the so-called high-functioning autism (Morgan & Donahue, 2021, p. 60).
„High-functioning“ often means high-masking. Masking is an intense form of adaptation to social expectations. It means hiding autistic traits and trying to appear non-autistic (i.e. allistic). Masking comes with possibilities to fit in with the majority of people (who are allistic), but comes with a price: deep exhaustion after demanding social and sensory situations. Constant masking can lead to autistic burnout – a form of exhaustion that doesn’t come from overstretching at work but from constantly trying to appear allistic and from ignoring sensory need (Raymaker et al., 2020).
The term autistic masking often reminds me of the concept of the „false self“ in the psychoanalytic works of D.W. Winnicott and H. Kohut. Alice Miller combined their work and wrote extensively about attempts of children to not show their true feelings and to adapt to the expectations of first their parents, second to society („The drama of the gifted child“). I’m wondering whether some of their treated patients who experienced this deep disconnect from their „true self“ also were autistic. This is me trying to connect psychoanalytical thinking with theories of neurodivergence.
Instead of asking people about what they can do, I find it helpful to ask, what it costs them.
📖 Lisa Morgan & Mary P. Donahue (2021). Living with PTSD on the autism spectrum: Insightful analysis with practical applications. Jessica Kingsley Publishers.
📖 Dora M. Raymaker, Alan R. Teo, Nicole A. Steckler, Brandy Lentz, Mirah Scharer, Austin Delos Santos, Steven K. Kapp, Morrigan Hunter, Andee Joyce, and Christina Nicolaidis (2020). “Having All of Your Internal Resources Exhausted Beyond Measure and Being Left with No Clean-Up Crew”: Defining Autistic Burnout in Adulthood. Autism in Adulthood 2(2), 132-143. https://doi.org/10.1089/aut.2019.0079









